This may be longer than 5 paragraphs.
Recently someone posted a very insightful comment on FB. Unfortunately, I’m not able to find the exact quote or the genius to attribute it to. But, I believe this comment speaks VOLUMES about our society. In a nutshell, the comment was something like this:
The greatest act we can do for women’s rights is to teach our sons to be better men.
And from watching how boys in their early teens to early 20’s behave I am in whole hearted agreement. I hear first hand from Knot Major about how poorly boys behave. Not “young men” because they are truly juvenile in their actions.
The other day I witnessed some true stupidity as I was leaving work. My office is a renovated girl’s dorm. As I was leaving the grand front facade, two students were talking. The young girl wanted the young boy on the bike to wait for her. He said he had to pick something up and he would be right back. Her response was, “Ok, well I hate you.” Her tone was joking, but her immaturity was at the surface.
That to say, women are much more mature than men these days especially in their 20’s. We expect so little from boys and chalk it up to, “Oh he’s just being a boy.” Frankly, I think that’s one of the biggest cop outs of our times. It’s really parents with little or no morals letting their sons do what they want.
This isn’t a race issue. White parents are horrible about teaching their kids not only manners but proper behavior with women. Black kids rarely have a solid father figure in their life, Hispanics teach their kids male dominance in a their culture and that women should not go to college, just stay home and make babies. Asians seem to be the only ones I can tell that get it close to correct.
Of course there are exceptions. There are always exceptions. Always. There are good kids. But they seem to be getting fewer and fewer. It would be easy to point my finger and say, “Oh well, this is to blame,” but being a Dallas Cowboys fan has taught me that there is always more than one reasons for stupidity.
Look, I believe the Bible. And it’s gotten a bad rap lately for this little verse:
Ephesians 5:21 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord."
That verse has been taken so out of context and I can understand why women are angry about it. They are angry because men behave like spoiled little pigs most of the time. Especially the younger ones. Not all of them, but a good majority. What people fail to do is read that entire passage.
The verses just before state, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and [died]for it;" and later, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” (emphasis added)
That is a direct charge to treat your wife better. A later verse goes on to say:
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (emphasis added)
If that’s not chalked full of, “Dude, treat your woman better!” I don’t know what is.
The bulk of the work should be on men. Women get one sentence, men get a laundry list. We’re failing to teach young men to be a man.
We’ve put way too much emphasis on women doing all the work lately and way too little on men doing their part. HOLY CRAP, men, pick it up! Teach your boys to respect women. And I’m pretty sure we need to teach our little girls that they don’t need to accept anything less than proper and good behavior from the boys in their life. I would bet money women would knock down doors for a man who treats them with love and respect.
